This weekend we learned that Jan's fight against cancer was coming to an end. About two weeks after her 6oth birthday, she entered hospice care, surrounded by friends and family in Chicago, including Marshia, who had flown from Ecuador for the birthday and a visit, fearing this might be the last time she would see her best friend.
The news that Jan's health had taken an inexorable turn for the worse took me by surprise and shook me to the core.
Not Jan. It didn't seem possible. There were so many things I wanted her to know.
Dear Jan,I heard today that you are starting hospice. We are sending so much love to you, and the circle of family and friends around you. You will always be an incredible role model to me--as an activist, a parent, a writer, a planner, a teller of important stories and a woman. You taught us well, and your lessons will keep us working. I cherish the memories of our many times of collaboration, from those early days with BTG, CATS and CNT to our time working on the book. I have always admired the way you hold your ground. I am not sure if you will get this, but I thought it was worth a shot. I am sorry we are so far away. You are kitted tightly into our hearts.I broke down when I got to the words,
the way you hold your ground. I don't think I ever really believed the ground would start to slip away. Why had I not been in better touch these last few months? I think I am a coward, in denial about death.
There was not a cowardly bone in Jan's body.
I first met her over ten years ago, when I was just beginning to get involved with transportation issues in Chicago. She worked at the
Center for Neighborhood Technology, which I admired for its policy work, and she was also friends with Jim and Marshia, who I knew through
Critical Mass.I remember many evenings on Hoyne Street, scheming ways to get more people on bikes and out of cars. Jan would always push us to think about pedestrians and transit too. She was a biker, but knew we needed a multi-modal, multi-pronged approach to reclaiming our streets from car-dependence. We were founding members of
Break the Gridlock, which supports grassroots projects and organizes conferences to bring together local activists for inspiration and education.
She understood that the struggle for social justice, which involves the struggle for equitable transportation, requires a lot of well-informed, passionate, confident people. She was all about equipping and expanding the ranks--and engaging our enemy? adversaries?
This is where the military analogy breaks down. Although I liked to sometimes debate Jan when I thought she was being too dichotomous, she was one of the most open-minded, empathetic people I knew. She didn't really see the "powers that be" as combatants, but rather well intentioned people who, she hoped, when confronted with sound arguments and data, would come around to the understanding that, say, we should invest more money in transit and less in sprawl-supporting and producing highways.
Oh, who am I kidding, Jan WAS a fighter. She was polite, gracious, sharp and hardworking but when honey and logic failed she had no problem standing up and rattling the gates of power. Nuance be damned.
Sometimes it's OK to be right enough. Sometimes it's OK to take a leap of faith that what you believe is worth fighting for. Too often I think progressive activists of my generation? ilk? get paralyzed with fear that we have not considered all the angles and perspectives; we are sometimes too empathetic, too soft, too quiet, too afraid to be wrong or not right-enough.
Jan did her homework, no doubt. She knew transportation policy inside and out, and was always learning. Her book,
What Would Jane Say: City Building Women and a Tale of Two Chicagos is a treasure trove of meticulous research. It imagines how the Burnham plan might have been different had it included contributions from his female, "city building" contemporaries like Jane Adams. The book introduces us to many unheralded thinkers and doers of the time, most of them women, and advocates for modern planning to reflect the needs, wishes and ideas of people from all walks of life. With her book, not only did she add to the historical record, she exposed us to more role models, reminding women like me to add our voice and sweat to civic projects.
I am grateful to Jan for so much. The job stuff is obvious. She was the one who encouraged me to apply to become
CATS's (now CMAP's) first ped/bike planner, despite my lack of credentials. I sat in her office for days, studying for the interview, reading every document CNT had on transportation and regional planning. When I got the job, I was always so happy to see her at the task force meetings, her red curls and hard questions making her stand out from the crowd.
Later, I worked for her at CNT, as a Pedestrian Program Manager. One of our biggest projects was advocating for Safe Routes to School legislation in Illinois. Most recently, I helped her revise and edit
What Would Jane Say.I am deeply honored to have been a part of that process. Despite round after round of chemo, she never let go of her dream to give voice to the women who worked so hard a century ago to make Chicago a better place for all. Early on, I asked her what kind of feedback she wanted. I knew this project was her passion, and I also knew her sense of urgency. She told me to bring it on. And I did. Our conversations ranged from the structure of the book to the structure of its sentences, and when we were on the phone, bubbling with enthusiasm for her topic and the messy, beautiful collaborative process of old friends, it was hard for me to believe there were days she could hardly get out of her chair. When I would bring up her health, she would often wave it off, not in a motion of denial but of priorities. She wanted our time together to be about her work.
But it's not just in the world of work, and community, that Jan was a mentor to me. I remember when I told her that I had stopped working full time so that our family could have a higher quality of life. She was thrilled for me, and talked about how much she cherished the time she had with her boys when they were little. She talked about her "fierce" love as a mother. I don't remember the exact way she said it, but I know she used the word fierce. I left that conversation feeling better than ever about my decision to spend more time working on being a mom.
I remember two summers ago, when we were working on the book and she was in chemo. She and John were in the back yard with us, after dinner. Miguel wandered off to play with his trike, and did a face plant into the concrete. Blood and screams were everywhere. Jan and John were amazing. Jan talked about her many trips to the ER, and comforted us as much as we were all comforting Miguel. Whenever I see the small half moon missing from his front teeth, I remember that night, and how much I appreciated Jan not only as a friend and colleague, but as someone with more years under her built who was always generous with encouragement and perspective.
Jan was a dear friend who gave everything she had to her family, friends and community. I am heartbroken that she is no longer with us.

Michael Adds some thoughts:The Gift of TimeThe Reverend Sam Barker advised us during our wedding ceremony back in 2002 that time is the most precious gift we give to each other as husband and wife.
Last night, our friend Jan Metzger died at a very young 60 years old after a long bout with cancer. She was a role model to us as a dedicated transportation activist at the
Center for Neighborhood Technology and author of
'What Would Jane Say?', a book about Jane Addams that Gin helped edit. We will miss her dearly.
Jan's untimely passing is a reminder of how precious our time together is. As we approach the quarter-way point of our sabbatical, I'm happy to be able to spend time with family and friends, but still need to work on being more present.
When I was planning my first big trip back in 1991 (a year long, around the world excursion), I remember asking my brother David, an experienced traveler, what the typical day was like on the road. He replied, "You wake up, eat breakfast, see some sights and then start thinking about lunch."
Twenty years later, our family sabbatical has a very different rhythm than my solo vagabond days. Days start earlier (sometimes allowing 2 lunches!), involve less traveling and more time just being. But even without the day-to-day pressures of a job, raising a three year old and working on various projects sometimes leaves me breathing shallowly.
Some important goals of our sabbatical are to live more in the moment, appreciate family and friends, and relax. And enjoy the gift of time.